Loosely connected

This past weekend I drove to Pittsburgh to see my former residents graduate. It’s been 3 years since I was a Resident Assistant, and I still miss it constantly. There’s nothing like helping teens discover/create the right college experience for them. Especially when the teens are as awesome as mine were.

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Me and some of my Class of 2010 kiddos enjoying Late Night at Fuel & Fuddle

I also got to spend some time with my aunt and uncle and their grandkids. We went to a school carnival; ate hot dogs, ice cream, and donuts; and competed in swimming noodle Jedi wars. I think Ben won (mostly due to sheer stamina).

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Sometime during the roadtrip, my car’s air conditioning died. Fortunately it was cool enough to roll down the windows. I didn’t really speed — and haven’t since I got my first and only ticket last year — but I did snap a few photos while driving… I know, I know, it’s bad and dangerous! And the photos I got weren’t even that great. But I’ve been wanting pictures of these Ohio Bicentennial barns for a while. Next time I’ll try to get a better shot while Andy is behind the wheel.

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It’s hard to explain how I feel about not having any real ties to Carnegie Mellon anymore. I only know a handful of professors and administrators there now, and I’m sure I’m fading in their memories with every passing day.

That part of it doesn’t bother me — in fact, it’s nice to go to campus and not have awkward run-ins with people I barely know. (Don’t get me wrong: the few that I do keep in touch with, I love. Seeing them wouldn’t be awkward at all.) But at the same time, little things keep changing every time I go back, and I guess part of me is afraid that one day I won’t recognize it at all…

That’s probably an irrational fear. But when you love something, it’s hard to let it go.

Like this:



2 is better than 1, but what about 3?


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  1. Jon


    Haha, kidding aside, I bet you’d make a really great RA. When I first saw that I went, residents, hmm, were you a doctor at some point? Is there something you’re not telling us Kristan?

  2. You’ll always have ties to Carnegie Mellon as long as you remember it and you are a part of other people’s memories of it.
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  3. hmm. I think this theme should make an appearance in 20SW. If only one could take a vacation to past moments, although, Pittsburgh hardly changes! My hero lecturer is retiring this summer and moving to Australia…it’s sad to know that I won’t have the opportunity to attend one of his classes again.
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  4. Noodle wars! Those were a constant for me and my fairly (read: way, super, etc.) competitive family. :) Fun post!
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  5. Jon-
    Aw, thanks. I loved it, and I like to think I was good at it. :)

    True true. (Too bad my own memory is so bad sometimes… Hehehe.)

    Aw, sorry to hear that. Or maybe it just means you gotta take a trip to the Down Under… ;)

    Thanks! I hope you won often. :P

  6. I haven’t actually been back to my university since I graduated. I know there have been a lot of changes, most of which I was really never in favor of. I’m a little afraid to go back and see what the campus looks like.

    It makes me understand a little bit more how my parents felt, when my brother and I were students there. Except that for them, they’d had 30 years of changes to get used to, rather than just 3.

    But I guess since they got over it, I can too, right?
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  7. Sounds like an awesome road trip! I know that feeling though. I had some good times in Universiy, but things have changed since then. I’ve visited a couple times but it’s a strange feeling. Everything’s different! That doesn’t change any of the good memories though. :)
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  8. Les

    I miss being a student, but I suppose life goes on :( if I make it to Wpg this summer I might stop in at the U of M and poke around a little.
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  9. I could totally picture you as a RA. I bet your were great at it! And I loved your pictures, so pretty!!

  10. Mary-
    Yeah. Things changed at CMU from when my dad went too, but I don’t think he thought of any of the changes as bad. I kind of hate the look of one of the new buildings that’s up on CMU’s campus, but at the same time, I know it’s not the end of the world. And like Sonja and T.S. said, my memories of CMU will always be my memories; no one can touch or taint them. :)

    I miss student life, but not academic life! :P

    Thanks, girl!

  11. I love visiting my old college campus (UC Berkeley) but every time I feel little sad that I remember fewer things or “don’t remember that being there!”
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  12. I was abruptly deployed to Iraq in the middle of college. By the time I returned, all my friends had already graduated. Talk about a shock. The school felt alien to me, and what’s more, after spending so much time around older men and women, I felt like I had returned to high school. It was a somber reminder that people – and not places – are what I treasure most about my memories.
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  13. I lived on my undergrad campus for a few years after I graduated. Watching the new kids file in and the old ones leave was one of the strongest testaments to the passage of time I’ve ever known. I think it was that, more than the actual change, that got me.
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  14. S0BeUrself-
    Wow. Now that sounds like something to write about…

    I agree with you and S0BeUrself completely: it’s the people more than the place. (That said, I often form strong attachments to places. :P)

  15. Thanks for sharing these, Kristan. It’s fun to see what’s going on in people’s lives outside of writing. And I love your Ohio barn picture!

  16. Marci

    You could just be an RA forever… like me!

    You dont like the Gates building? Teo and I really did…at least from the outside. Inside, not so much.

    It’s funny b/c when I read this, I thought, I dont feel this way at all about CMU- I dont care how time passes and it feels less familiar. But that’s exactly how I feel about Spain every year I don’t go back.

  17. Marci-
    Independently, the Gates building looks cool. With the rest of campus, I’m not a fan. I would prefer a slightly more unified look, closer in to the yellow brick or the CFA buildings. I think part of what makes Harvard or Stanford or Rice attractive is how the campus looks cohesive; vs. MIT which is hodgepodge and ugly.

    I did not go inside Gates yet. No time. But I have heard it’s somewhat disappointing…

    Oh, I feel this way about Spain and Taiwan too. I think Taiwan is hitting me harder because it’s been longer (like 7 yrs) since I was back, vs. Spain at least was only 4 yrs ago (HOLY COW 4 YRS?!). Getting back to both of them is a big travel priority for me, though. I’m looking at 2012 and 2013.

  18. Ah! I love finding former RAs among me! I was a RA for two years and it was such an amazing experience. That is so awesome that you went to see them graduate, must have been a pretty surreal experience.


    Hannah Katy

  19. It totally was. As was sitting at the restaurant being the only one who didn’t want to drink — since when have they been legal to get beer?! :P

    Yay for RAs, past and present! :)

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